Small Big Days


Every married person has considered the size of his or her wedding, even if it only included one witness. It is a consideration we all share from the day of the proposal until the Big Day itself.

My friends Tom and Francesca’s story of grabbing the ice-cream man from his van to witness their nuptials (and then take their photographs!), will always rate as one of the most romantic tales I know, and it is a rare one in the UK, where LA style spontaneity is not a possibility!

A Big Day in its truest sense is all about that huge declaration, that deepest commitment of one soul to another and we can all understand it is not about the size of the guest list.

So what does matter about size? You may have always expected that the Big Day would mean sharing it with the most people you’ve ever gathered together in your life so far. But there comes a time when you really have to think about what those folk are going to truly share with you on your day.

In a world where sharing is king, be very mindful of the everlasting impression your Big Day will have for those you feel are important enough to be there. Sharing the love means that they should love it too, and your wedding should forever deepen and brighten the relationships you have with those around you.

As you think through all the timings and all the elements of your Big Day, always begin with the two of you. Then be realistic about what you can provide for the comfort of those joining you at those times. If the balance becomes too much of a compromise, then it is time to embrace the Small Big Day.

If a small wedding means that you can have luxury and privacy, as opposed to mediocre and non-exclusive; you can have quantity and quality as opposed to not enough and badly done, then you will soon wonder why you ever considered the big guest list.

As a venue owner of a venue that specialises in the ultimate intimate wedding experience, it is always interesting to hear clients describe what they don’t want, and this can often have a lot to do with their experience as guest. I feel truly blessed to work with such thoughtful people. At Upper House you can be assured that all will delight in truly sharing this amazing space that is completely yours for the day, on premium dates, at any time of year. An abundance of friendly and helpful staff, a package that caters for you from the moment you arrive, and the amazing five course Wedding Breakfast, means that nothing about your Big Day could ever be considered small at Upper House.